Thursday, March 30, 2017 | By: Anita

So here I am...

Still blogging.

Some people take to it like a duck takes to water.  And of all the people I knew to start a blog  when I did, who would have thought that I would still be here 10 years later?!?

Certainly not me.

And yet ...

It’s been a good thing this blogging.

Over the years my blogging has evolved.  I can see how my writing has changed.  How my format has changed. Even the graphics have changed.  But the biggest change would be how God has developed something that I am truly blessed by.  

Blog Land was where I belonged.  It was in 2007, when I started and I had no idea what I was doing exactly, but I went for it. I found it to be a place of comfort and inspiration.  

Sometimes we may think that we’d never be good at something, it just isn’t “our thing.” But God knows our hearts, and He wanted me to write.  He knew how much it would fulfill me.  

Blogging has been an incredible gift to me.  I’ve enjoyed writing about my life, sharing some of my favourite moments of our family and leaving a bit of legacy here.  It’s been quite a journey, one I never expected taking in the first place.

I’ve LOVED writing! Still do, but I must admit, it’s getting lower on my priority list. Because for some time now, I’ve been feeling, like maybe it’s time to let this go.  It’s become more of a chore than it should be.  Perhaps I expected the process and results to be similar to what it once was.  

I’m hesitant, because I’ve become sentimental about this blog and I’m proud of the work I’ve done here. I’ve identified myself for so long with this blog, that if I’m being honest, I’m struggling with letting it go. But as I started watching for the signs and thinking over the decision, it became more clear that calling this blog “finished” is the right thing.

It’s time.  

Thank you to those who followed, commented, and encouraged me.

To everything there is a season, and my time here is done…

Take Care 

Tuesday, March 28, 2017 | By: Anita

Just be...

Living with a chronic illness, where each day is a battle, can really start to wear on a person. It’s easy to be a person on the outside, making assumptions. I get it. I’ve been there... still am to some extent. We see what’s in front of us and make our judgments. However, in doing so, we fail to grasp the full picture.
My type A personality keeps me on my toes as I am constantly trying to “fix” myself or whatever is causing my struggles. I have an extensive list of dietary restrictions, supplements and prescription medicines that are “supposed” to help, detox methods, rest, exercise, prayer, use of essential oils, and so much more “helpful” advice that has me pulling my already falling out hair, out…

This winter has left me exhausted, struggling with crushing fatigue, debilitating pain and discouragement. I feel drained and overwhelmed. So many things have been left undone. 

However, I feel like God has been teaching me over and over about surrendering and resting in Him instead of racing to keep things afloat.

I’m at the place where I am worn down and need some serious rest. 

Because I’ve felt so terrible over the past several weeks, I’ve been reflecting on what I actually need in order to live better. What I’ve learned learning is that the most crucial thing for me right now is to give myself grace.

I need to slow down, even more than I already have and be, just be...

Take Care

Friday, March 24, 2017 | By: Anita

feeling a little...

i didn’t sleep well last night. again. my heart beat fast. the thoughts wound round and round and round. my breaths came in quick, rapid succession. tossing and turning, until i woke at more or less my usual time.  

i got up, had my tea and made a list of things to attempt accomplishing today.  puttered around a bit.  handled a few phone calls.  ate some breakfast.  read my devotional. had a nice rambling chat with my daughter.  organized some of the craft room and while down there, did some laundry.  paid some bills and organized some paperwork. ran a few errands.  answered a few emails.  checked facebook and instagram. 

you know, i start out well, but as the day wears on i usually run out of steam before i get everything done.

i have good intentions. but i am just sooo tiiirrreeedd alllllllll the time! 
throughout the day i’ll remind myself: “it’s okay that you can’t do that today. it’s okay to leave the dishes ‘til tomorrow. it’s okay to say no.” i need to listen to what my body is telling me and try not to be too hard on myself for struggling.  

my illness has brought so many changes to my life that, let’s face it: they are neither pretty nor easy to live with.

do you know how many times a day i have to consciously give myself grace?  a lot. like, A LOT, a lot.

i don’t know about you, but sometimes i just have plain old “bad” days and i can’t seemingly do anything right.  it’s exhausting and hard to stay motivated.

i have felt stuck in a rut lately.  and honestly, i feel like giving up.  

i want my life to matter, to have meaning and purpose, in my roles as wife, mom, gigi, daughter, and friend, and how i spend my time.  

sadly, i’m feeling a little lost these days…

yet, i believe that God does have a plan and a purpose for me… and while some days i try desperately to figure it all out on my own, i need to remember, my job is to seek Him.  and trust that He is working it all for my good.

take care
Monday, March 20, 2017 | By: Anita

It's Spring

Even though we had an extremely mild winter, I'm more than ready for spring... how about you?
Take Care
Thursday, March 16, 2017 | By: Anita

Tale as old as time

It premieres tonight! 

This Disney classic comes to life on the big screen...
Will you be seeing it?

Take Care
Wednesday, March 15, 2017 | By: Anita

Is this allowed?

I’m sure this isn’t something I’m supposed to admit.  At least not out loud.  And definitely not write it… I’m sure some would even consider it sacrilegious or something. But nonetheless, it’s true.

I hate the Proverbs 31 woman. Well hate could be too strong a word… intensely dislike. Because seriously. What’s to like?

She wakes up early. Every. Single. Day.

She makes things from scratch clothes, bedding, meals, everything.

She gardens and farms and seems to rather enjoy getting dirt under her fingernails.

She’s a successful businesswoman, wife, mother, and leader.

She despises idleness (which, I’d imagine, includes sitting in her chair reading).

She’s wise and tactful. Always.

She makes all the crafts on Pinterest and she makes them well. 

She exercises daily. 

She wields her smartphone calendar with precision, never forgetting an important appointment and we can be sure she’s never late.  

She has all the blanks of her Bible study workbook filled in. 

She’s always nice, always ready to listen, always ready to open her home. 

She has her hair perfectly done and never-ever runs her errands in yoga-pants.

Ugh!  The woman in that chapter…she’s like an ever-smiling Superwoman.   How can I possibly live up to this impossible standard? 

I know that this chapter of Scripture is supposed to be encouraging, it’s supposed to teach me something. 

It isn’t about throwing the perfect party with the perfect food with the perfect decorations with the perfectly clean house with the perfectly managed money with the perfect skin and the perfect hair and the perfect outfit.  
It’s about women who live life, fully reliant upon the Lord.  

So let’s stop beating ourselves up because we’re not THE Proverbs 31 woman, but let’s be A Proverbs 31 woman who chooses to completely “Trust in the Lord with all her heart and lean not on her own understanding”. Proverbs 3:5 {New International Version {NIV}

Take Care
Monday, March 13, 2017 | By: Anita

Another post about JOY

Kind of an obvious question, but… did you know that there is a difference between happiness and joy?

Happiness is something that can come and go… and may even last for a time. It is based on an experience or other external situations, a feeling of being content and satisfied and tends to disappear when the situation changes.

Joy on the other hand is great delight, a euphoria.  Based on internal well-being or the anticipation of well-being. Circumstances in life do not affect the joy. Joy is independent of the current circumstances.

Life is hard, and some days it’s harder to hold onto that feeling of joy. Thankfully, Joy is not based on feeling; it is based on knowing. On those days when everything just feels blah, I need to remember “consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds.” James 1:2 {New International Version {NIV}}

Everyone wants to be happy; spending money, collecting things, and searching for the new experiences. But if happiness depends on our circumstances, what happens when the toys rust, loved ones die, health deteriorates, money is gone, and the party’s over? 

I struggle with this.  Perhaps you do too?

Happiness depends on happenings, but Joy depends on Christ. 

When we find true joy, it will last forever. Running deeper and stronger. Joy is the quiet, confidant assurance of God’s love and work in our lives.  I don’t know about you, but I want to feel more than contentment and satisfaction in my life. 

I want true joy!  

Take Care

Thursday, March 9, 2017 | By: Anita

My Chair

I have a confession to make. I love my chair. 

This one I got from IKEA. 
Once I sat in it I knew… I knew this would become my chair. The one I’d need on those sleepless nights.  The one to have my afternoon rest in.  

The one I could sit in all day reading a book or watching a movie and never get up except if I have to … you know?!?

I could live in my comfy’s permanently and binge watch The Big Bang Theory, or troll Facebook until my finger hurts. I’d rather sit in my chair and read, than clean my house or go to the grocery store.

We need to stop from the hustle and bustle and the constant busyness of life and sit in our chairs.  Sometimes we need to slow down.

He says, “Be still, and know that I am God”  ~ Psalm 46:10 {New International Version {NIV}}

And so, on most afternoons this is the chair you’ll find me in, with a cup of tea by my side, sitting still, especially if the night before was a rough one…

Take Care

Monday, March 6, 2017 | By: Anita

Mundane Mondays

Every time someone posted their One Word for 2017, I’d think, ooh, that’s a good one. But you know, I didn’t want someone else’s word. I wanted my word. And wouldn’t you know, just as soon as I chose my #oneword for 2017, I would have the opportunity to embrace it… and to embrace it grandly. 

Things happen in life over which we have no control. It’s the way in which we respond to those things that determines how we feel.

Let’s face it ~ life can be mundane sometimes. {Especially Mondays}

There’s the day in, day out shuffle of work or school or whatever else it is you do on a daily basis and no matter what you do to try to spice things up, things will probably start to feel boring at some point.

In the midst of the hustle and bustle of each day, when tasks and to-dos seem to stretch with no end in sight, it’s easy for me to forget the wonder of the day.

But God is there in the little things. He shows His love and care in the everyday moments. A sunset filled with orange, red, and pink.  Gently falling snow.  A hot cup of tea on a cold day.  A smile. 

God provides little things each day for us to enjoy!

It can be as simple as…
Driving a different way home and discovering a new scene.
Ordering something different from our regular menu
Grabbing a book and learning something new
Scheduling in time for whatever that “something” is that you want different in your life.

When I remember to pay attention to the joy around me, my Mondays become easier. Less mundane. 
My word this year is JOY...not because my life is good all the time but because God is!

Take Care
Friday, March 3, 2017 | By: Anita

It's a journey

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6, {New International Version {NIV}} 

Did you hear that?

He will make your paths straight.

Too often I lean on my own understanding before leaning on Him.

It’s a little stressful for me to imagine my life as a path. To think that God has a specific lane for me and it’s my job to stay between the lines. Or I won’t end up in the right place. Or a wrong turn will ruin everything.  If it’s up to me to stay on the path, I’d be lost for sure. Mostly because I’m directionally challenged. Like seriously challenged. Like lost in a closet challenged!

Life is full of so many complications, so many choices, so many tough decisions.  So many different paths that are available to us to take. The right path, the wrong path, a career path. Sometimes there’s a fork in the road and we have to make a choice. Sometimes, the path gets dark and lonely and we feel like maybe, just maybe, we took a wrong turn somewhere. 

When I think about trying to do right, trying to find God’s will for my life, or trying to chose the path for my life, it’s sometimes overwhelming.  Plus, I also overthink everything.

All too often, I forget life isn’t a race to the finish line… it’s a journey. And it’s up to us to
When we put our trust in Jesus Christ, we need not worry which way to walk, or what may lie around the next bend. He tells us Isaiah 30:21 “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’”

Take Care

Tuesday, February 28, 2017 | By: Anita

Let the countdown begin

Looking forward to this fun-filled family vacation!

Take Care
Thursday, February 23, 2017 | By: Anita

the blahs

winter is always a struggle for me.

i tend to hibernate.  not wanting to leave the comfort of my home. 

but rather sit by the fireplace wrapped up in a blanket, with a good book in one hand and a glass of wine in the other.

winter is hard.

as the days get shorter and the temperature drops, the darkness starts to wear me down and it’s not uncommon for me to start feeling …
what’s worse than the cold of winter, is the darkness.  even though the days are shorter they seem so much longer.  does that even make sense?

in the dull days of winter, i find myself wanting to stay in more, eat more and definitely sleep more.  i much prefer evenings sitting outside on the front porch.

i am not made for winter. from the middle of november until the early days in april i am cold… and no amount of layering can keep this girl warm.

okay… enough whining.  

i’m going to pour myself a glass of wine, and while i can’t sit outside on the front porch i can choose to enjoy this time...

what do you do, to chase the blahs away?

take Care 
Monday, February 20, 2017 | By: Anita

February's Fantastic Favourite Fiction Five

I've mentioned it a time or two, I'm sure.  I love to read!  Here are just a few of my faves... 
The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena, is an outstanding debut psychological thriller novel from author Shari Lapena, and one of the best reads I have read this year! This novel, a child-abduction case, races along at an amazing speed, full of twists and turns, totally gripping the reader for the suspense ride from beginning to end. I kept flipping the pages as I had to know what had happened. I loved it!

Among the Wicked by Linda Castillo, is a suspense series set in Amish country has been a favourite of mine. I am never disappointed when I get my hands on a Kate Burkholder., and while this is her 8th book, it’s just as good as the first in the series! Definitely a page turner and the ending?  I was stunned with such a great plot twist! 


The Life We Bury by Allen Eskens, was an intense book that kept me on the edge of my seat. It was well written and clever. Plus, I was instantly drawn into the gripping plot and the well crafted and compelling characters. If you like thriller/suspense books, you will enjoy this fantastic debut.  Let me just say that this book is awesome! I mean 5 Star! I am very confident his second book will be remarkable.


Only Daughter by Anna Snoekstra, is a fast paced paced, totally gripping psychological thriller. I went into this book slightly blind, and was pleasantly surprised as to where the plot  took me. I really enjoyed all the twists and turns. The ending at first seems like what we might have expected but then turns out to be something else again – always fun! I couldn’t put it down. 

Right Behind You by Lisa Gardner, is the 7th book in the “Quincy & Rainie” series. I’m a huge Lisa Gardner fan and I love all of her books. And this one? Ooohh, this one was so good! Much to my surprise, this wasn’t the dark and depraved story I was expecting. This story actually hit on the opposite end of the spectrum. Psychologically rich. Meticulously researched. Thought-provoking. Definitely an edge-of-your-seat thriller. Emotional. Gripping. Suspenseful. 5 Stars!  Absolutely 5 Stars!  

What are you reading these days?

Take Care
Friday, February 17, 2017 | By: Anita

Note to Self

My journey over the past few years has been one of moving toward understanding and accepting that I am enough.

Whole. Complete. Nothing missing, nothing broken.

HE says I’m enough ~
even though I like to sleep in,
use pre-packaged cake mixes,
don’t really enjoy the gardens or flowerbeds,
love lazy Saturdays,
and have jiggly arms.

HE says I’m enough ~ 
even though I say stupid things,
fail at loving others well,
doubt, question, and swear,
don’t pray or read the Bible often enough,
and make mistakes {big and small}.

HE sees me and knows me and still declares me enough.  Actually, HE declares me good.

So it’s time to let go of this grudge I’ve held against myself.
And so are you, my friend.

Take Care
Thursday, February 16, 2017 | By: Anita

#flawless

Because sometimes, I still struggle...
and this awesome video/song, is a valuable reminder that I desperately need!

Take Care
Tuesday, February 14, 2017 | By: Anita

Love it!

Take Care
Friday, February 10, 2017 | By: Anita

Daughter of the King

For a long time I looked at the girl in the mirror with contempt. I was so angry at her for all of her mistakes. I’ve made so many poor decisions and errors in judgment. I’d done too many things wrong and made some enormous mistakes.

Some things I couldn’t even pretend were mistakes...I’d knowingly made bad choices and am living with the consequences to this day. 

Quite often, when I am in certain circles. I gloss over certain parts of my past, careful to omit things that I knew would raise eyebrows.  I couldn’t be a credible Christian if they knew, I told myself. 

It was is simply exhausting to live like that.

It took me several long years to come to terms with a simple reality: God loves me and forgave me the moment I asked. My past ~ as riddled with poor decisions and sin as it was ~ didn’t doesn’t define me. It’s simply the past. God tells us that we are no longer who we once were. The moment we ask for His forgiveness, He offers it.   Isn’t that a beautiful Truth?

How about you? Do you feel weighed down by your past? Do you feel like God can’t really use you because you’re too damaged? You’ve made too many bad decisions? You’ve sinned too much? You’re too far gone?

Let me remind you ~ You are not defined by your past... and just like me, you are a
That is how you are defined!

Take Care

Tuesday, February 7, 2017 | By: Anita

His birthday

Wishing my Dad a very happy birthday today.  May you have a wonderful year, full of great health, joyful moments and many, many blessings!
Looking forward to Sunday when the families can gather to celebrate.

Take Care
Monday, February 6, 2017 | By: Anita

Journaling activity

I’ve found that writing out scripture when doing my devotions is very comforting to me. It makes me slow down. Helping me notice the words and the thoughts behind them. 

When I write out the scriptures in my own words, it makes them not only more personal, but has a deeper impact.

If this is something new to you, start easy. Use a well known or familiar passage.  
Like Psalm 23.
Read it in several translations.
Spend time pondering the words.
Look up words like shepherd, and what it means to be anointed.
Jot down your thoughts.
Those words can be a great encouragement.

I encourage you to find a journal if you don't have one already and give it a try. Use either a plain old composition book that you can find in the dollar store, or treat yourself to a special one from a bookstore.  I love me a new journal.
I like to journal. No, that’s not accurate. I need to journal. I need a place where I can write down all the thoughts, different ideas and the impact scripture has on me. I find it to be a place where I can reflect back on the times throughout my life. It’s a gentle reminder that even when things at the time might seem bad, it can help me realize that this too shall pass.

We need to be reminded of what’s important of the beautiful things that are in life, and my journals do that for me.

Take Care
Thursday, February 2, 2017 | By: Anita

#choosejoy

At the end of each year, I would start thinking and praying about my word for the following year, but by December 31, nothing felt right.  

I couldn’t come up with “the” word and finally just decided that 2017 wasn’t a year for finding just the right word.  

And if you know me, I was starting to get anxious about my one word or lack thereof for 2017.

As I was reading, praying, and searching for my word, I started to take notice that when I was scrolling through the newsfeed on Facebook, Instagram, and even Pinterest a pattern slowly emerged.  People that I follow on these sites {unknown to each other} were posting pics and reminders about JOY.  And just the other sleepless night, I found myself re-reading through some of the 2016 posts on my blog and again the word JOY revealed itself and you know what, that word is really starting to resonate with me.

So here we are, already a month into the New Year and I’ve finally found my word for 2017.
It’s that simple.

It’s something I’ve always struggled with, and something I want to work on this year.  I find it hard to relax and live in the moment and rarely am I content with things as they are.  It’s so easy in this life to get distracted from the things that matter.

I want to embrace life full even when I don’t think I have it in me.  I want to pursue more joy in my life, and it’s about accepting joy right in the middle of my life.

When it doesn’t make sense.

When it seems impossible.

Making time for joy when everything else is pressing in.

The kind of joy I’m talking about is not dependent on the circumstances in my life.

I need to find more of it again in who I am, what I do, where I’m going and why I’m here.

And so, as I begin this journey I am seeking His direction on how to  “consider it pure joy” in all areas of my life.

My goal is to be JOYful. Will you join me?

Take Care
Monday, January 30, 2017 | By: Anita

Winter days

This is the perfect time to curl up in our sweaters, snuggle under a blanket, brew a pot of tea, sit by the fireplace and cozy up with a good book or movie. 

Can you believe January is almost over? 

With my backyard blanketed with a fresh covering of snow, it’s a good time to talk about what we’re into right now.

The night table 
This is the stack of books, I’m reading through.  
I’ve finished Only Daughter, {4 out of 5 stars}  The Life we Bury, {4 out of 5 stars} read 4 chapters of The Wrong side of Goodbye and realized it’s too close to John Grishams’ The Testament, so I didn’t bother finishing it… currently reading The Farm {pretty good so far}. 

The television 
Each and every January, we haul out our boxset of the series LOST, {because hello, Josh Holloway} and binge watch until all six seasons are finished… and now that the Australian Open is over, we’ve started season three.

The kitchen
With our boys out on their own, this mama still likes to make some homemade meals and send them to their homes.  So about once a month, I get the ingredients I need and I cook up a storm.  One fav is this.
Taco bake Casserole

As for me, I’ve decided to again to eliminate dairy, eggs, peanuts, sugar, MSG, corn, wheat, red meat and nightshade vegetables from my diet.  Not an easy task mind you, but one I’m hoping that with time, will improve my health.  Thank goodness for almond milk and this recipe.

Chai Spiced Granola


The iPad 
I’ve been reading a few new blogs…
The Lazy Genius Collective 
Cranberry Tea Time
Blessed Transgressions 
Living in the Moment
And of course I still love seeing what the “the girls” over at Mennonite Girls Can Cook are cooking up.  I’ve also been enjoying the Holy Bible app, and read my daily devotions from there. And let’s be honest here, after all we’re friends right? I love my recolor app.

The Radio
Been listening to k-love radio, a Christian radio station in the states.  And lovin’ it! It’s a great motivator. 

How about you? What are your own faves?

Take Care
Friday, January 27, 2017 | By: Anita

Joy?!?

For a long time, I was really irritated with James {as in New Testament James} and his “count it all joy” to be found in James 1:2.

Life with a chronic illness is hard.

Some days, joy feels so unattainable.

Trade places with me and let’s see how long you talk about joy.

Each day when I wake up, my body feels miserable. I feel weak and tired. It is hard to move, hard to wake up, hard to go about my simple, daily life. If it were up to me, I would choose not to be chronically ill. But that is not the life God has given me, so I surrender my desires, and I accept His plan for my life.  {still a work in progress}

When we trust that each moment in our life has purpose and can cause us to grow, we have a reason to “count it all joy” in every circumstance.

When things don’t go as planned….. we can count it as joy.

In the middle of a crisis….. we can count it as joy.

If we feel discouraged, anxious or depressed….. we can still count it as joy.

When the prognosis is bleak or we are in physical pain….. we can count it as joy.

In our times of deepest loss, grief or loneliness….. we can count it as joy.

When we feel afraid or like we don’t have what it takes….. we can count it as joy.

Whatever life throws at us, whether it seems big or small, we can count it as joy because we have hope. 

Finding the joy in trials can be hard, can’t it?

And yet, God promises to never leave us, who walks with us or carries us through every trial and joy, and who has given his very life for us.

Life is good.  Not perfect.  But it is good.

Joy is there to be found in the hard days, the stuck-in-bed days, the pain-filled days, and the lonely days.

Perhaps JOY is my 2017 word?

Take Care
Tuesday, January 24, 2017 | By: Anita

Listen

As an introvert sometimes even I just need a little bit of silence.

I’m quiet, you know. 

I read more and talk less. 

I process inside and have difficulty translating it to the outside. 

In this crazy, busy hectic world how is silence even possible?  

There are so many things that can invade our lives and block our ability to hear God. Television, radio, ipods, cell phones, Internet, email, traffic, and busy schedules all contribute to our noisy world.

Every moment is bombarded by noise, both external and mental, that can clutter our thoughts and cause us to lose the ability to settle down and really commune with and listen to God. All that noise can contribute to God’s silence in our lives. 

To listen is to be silent.
For when we’re silent, then we can listen for God speaking to our hearts.

shh… quiet

I’m listening ...

Take Care
Thursday, January 19, 2017 | By: Anita

Mary vs. Martha

In my daily life right now, I’m good with the Martha part, but the Mary part?  Well, it could use some work…..

My house is good, it’s tidy, relatively clean and fairly organized. But my spiritual life quite often sits on the back burner. Simmering, not really ever coming to a full boil.

Oh sure, I read a daily devotion, but more often than not, it’s one more task to complete.  It’s a daily struggle to find closeness with God, to take time to pray, and to read his word. 

The schedule of my life, I’m sure is quite similar to many other women. I go through each week doing laundry, making meals, attending church, running errands, keeping watch over my Squinch and date nights with the hubs, fill up most of my time.

It’s easy for my Martha part, every morning as soon as I get up I make the bed, tidy our ensuite bathroom. Do a quick overview of what I hope to accomplish in the day and then simply get started. 

Confession:  I need a little more Mary, and not so much Martha in my life… but the question is, how?

Do I simply open my Bible and start reading? Or every time I’m alone in the car, I listen to Christian music. Or in the afternoon I read a Christian book? Or pray every night before I go to bed?  

These are all good ideas, but… when I get to those times of the day, I tend to find something else to do. 

So, today, I’m making a promise to myself.  I will inject some Mary into my daily routine. It may take a week or so to see a real difference, but I’m going to chip away at this lifelong struggle each day. 

With a little more Mary today, I’m hoping my Martha will be more peaceful.

Take Care