Let me tell you a secret

I feel like I should tell you something. sshhh, you can't tell anyone. OK... here it is.

I don’t do it all. I can’t. I simply can’t. And. .. really . . neither can you. At least, I assume you can’t. I just want to make sure I’m not putting off a false impression. You know, we tend to do that. We see other women who seem to have have it all together and we wish we could too. I commend those who volunteer at the food bank, home school their kids, help the elderly, work a 40 hour week and the list goes on. But that's not for me.

My house is NOT spotless. I prioritize some things higher than a spotless house. It is picked up (mostly), but not extraordinarily clean. The baseboards remain undusted more often than not. The windows need washing. The floors could stand to be swept. The cupboards need re-organizing.

Just because something is important to me – it may not be important to you. Just because something is important to you – it may not be important to me. You may be an impeccable housekeeper by nature, but you may not like to plan dinner. There is so much grace in motherhood and womanhood. There are so many ways to be – and an equal number of ways not to be. When you consciously let go of the expectation of doing things you don’t value, you create room to do the things that are important to you.


It's all about grace. Grace.

And it's OK, cause you ARE enough.

What I am saying is this.. . ... don’t let your choices make you feel inferior. Use your power of choice to create room in your life to pursue what is important to you, what makes you tick, what gets you going, what makes you passionate. Saying no to one thing allows you to do something else. Refusing to do something out of obligation or guilt allows you to put time into what you value and what your family values.

Don’t let society, or blogs, or other women, or the way your mom did things rule the way you live your life. Don’t mop your floor everyday because your mother would wag her finger at you if you didn’t... . ..mop that floor everyday ONLY (only, only, only!!) if you feel like singing while you do it, if it makes you come alive. Do things because you actively make the decision to do them, not passively because you feel like you ought.

Choosing to make time to read a book or do a craft or pursue a passion is not idle. It is not unworthy. You do not need to be dictated by our high-performing, high-achieving, never-resting, always-moving society. No one gets a medal on their deathbed for cleanest showers.

Pursue the things and ideas and people you love. Let go of the things that hinder that pursuit. After all, sometimes crumbs on the floor make people feel at home - able to just be in a place and with a person that isn’t perfect either.

We don’t have to do it all.

Women don’t/can’t/won’t ever be able to do it all. And that's OK!

Blessings